Are you worried a friend or family member may be in danger or getting hurt? Here are some ways to help others experiencing relationship abuse.

Listen

Listen

It can be difficult to talk about domestic violence, sexual violence and human trafficking. You don’t need to feel like you have all the answers to be supportive. You should listen and believe them without judgement. Instead of providing advice, here’s what you can say to someone who is experiencing relationship violence: 

  • It is not their fault
  • They are not alone
  • You are there for them

Remember that you should spend more time listening than talking.

respect

Respect their choices

You may wonder why someone would stay with a person who is hurting them, but keep in mind that they know what is safe for them at this moment. Abusive relationships or being harmed by someone you care about can be emotionally and physically dangerous. It’s especially dangerous when someone tries to leave their relationship.

connect

Help them connect to resources and support

They may not be ready to accept help now, but let them know you’ll be there when they need you. Offer to watch their kids while they seek out support or to sit with them when they call for help.

crisis line

Give them Cornerstone’s 24/7 Day One Crisis Hotline contact information

Let them know they can call, text or chat online with an advocate any time, day or night, whether they want to find a safe place to go or to get support over the phone. Interpreters are available for anyone who contacts the crisis hotline.

safety

Help them stay safe

If they aren’t ready to leave right now, help them develop a safety plan. You can contact Cornerstone or the Minnesota Day One Crisis Line for assistance with safety planning. You could offer to store a copy of important documents, precious items, an extra set of car keys and emergency money at your home if the need for a quick escape arises.

RIDES

Offer to help get medical attention

Offer to drive to the doctor or hospital if anyone is hurt now or in the future.

self Care

Take care of yourself

Take care of yourself when you are supporting someone in your life who is experiencing violence or abuse.  You might need to seek help from someone else. You can consider contacting a professional or another trusted individual that does not know them personally such as a therapist or spiritual leader. Do not discuss their situation with mutual friends or family. Cornerstone’s Concerned Persons Support Group may be a good fit for you. Anyone in Minnesota can call the Minnesota Day One Crisis Hotline to speak with a trained advocate for support. 

You don’t have to have all of the answers to help someone who is experiencing domestic violence, sexual violence or human trafficking. It is important for victims / survivors to have someone in their life who supports them without judgement. Listening, respecting their decisions and showing up for them — while taking care of yourself — is key.

Contact Us

Schedule an appointment with a Cornerstone advocate by calling 952.884.0376. To connect with us after hours, please call our local 24/7 crisis line at 952.884.0330. Interpreters are available.

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Cornerstone’s continuum of service helps to create communities where individuals and families are safe and children thrive. We advocate, educate and lead the way to social change. Our ultimate goal is to reduce the prevalence of domestic violence, sexual violence, human trafficking and general crime.

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A statewide program of Cornerstone, Day One® works to ensure that no call for help goes unanswered so that all in need can find safety and support. Day One connects people to experiencing domestic violence, sexual violence, human trafficking or general crime to help at agencies throughout the state.

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Call: 1.866.223.1111
Text: 612.399.9995

Please call 911 in an emergency.

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Call: 1.866.385.2699
Text: 612.399.9977

Please call 911 in an emergency.

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